Print ArticleI once had a long distance relationship with someone who was exciting and jet-setting across the country. A top executive in a Fortune 500 company and I was in awe of it all. But I found I didnīt like the feeling of longing, wondering where they were, what they were doing, or maybe more importantly who else they might be doing. It drove me crazy.
For some people long-distance relationships work. It gives them time to themselves, and gives them a chance to miss the person and appreciate them when they come around but for me? Forget it. I donīt need to see them every damn day but I want them around and I want to be around them.
There are so many trappings in a long distance relationship. You may start feeling insecure, wondering what they might be doing who else they might be talking to or God forbid sleeping with. You miss them and feel unappreciated and undervalued. For me, it just didnīt work.
Thatīs what the main character, Dio in my novel, Forever My Lady goes through. Heīs made some wrong choices and ends up in prison boot camp. The love of his life, Jennifer is on the other side and although they try to write letters back and forth itīs just not the same. She is the one person that has always been there for him and promises that sheīll never leave him. But sooner or later the letters become less and less frequent and his fears are made manifest when he finds out from a friend that sheīs getting ready to marry someone else.
But how do you deal with a long distance relationship if you choose to be in one?
First, you must agree about how often you will see each other and make a commitment to that. You must stay in constant communication in a way that is not intrusive and obnoxious to the other person. And you have to talk honestly about what would happen if it just doesnīt work out, will either one of you be willing to move closer to the other? Thatīs something you should talk about.
Gone are the days of long ago where the person will wait years and years for the other person to return from war or prison or a war camp. People are realistic and if theyīre not they should be. True love, Iīve learned will last no matter what, no matter where, no matter what the distance.
Jeff Rivera is the author of Forever My Lady. For more information visit Amazon.com or www.JeffRivera.com
For some people long-distance relationships work. It gives them time to themselves, and gives them a chance to miss the person and appreciate them when they come around but for me? Forget it. I donīt need to see them every damn day but I want them around and I want to be around them.
There are so many trappings in a long distance relationship. You may start feeling insecure, wondering what they might be doing who else they might be talking to or God forbid sleeping with. You miss them and feel unappreciated and undervalued. For me, it just didnīt work.
Thatīs what the main character, Dio in my novel, Forever My Lady goes through. Heīs made some wrong choices and ends up in prison boot camp. The love of his life, Jennifer is on the other side and although they try to write letters back and forth itīs just not the same. She is the one person that has always been there for him and promises that sheīll never leave him. But sooner or later the letters become less and less frequent and his fears are made manifest when he finds out from a friend that sheīs getting ready to marry someone else.
But how do you deal with a long distance relationship if you choose to be in one?
First, you must agree about how often you will see each other and make a commitment to that. You must stay in constant communication in a way that is not intrusive and obnoxious to the other person. And you have to talk honestly about what would happen if it just doesnīt work out, will either one of you be willing to move closer to the other? Thatīs something you should talk about.
Gone are the days of long ago where the person will wait years and years for the other person to return from war or prison or a war camp. People are realistic and if theyīre not they should be. True love, Iīve learned will last no matter what, no matter where, no matter what the distance.
Jeff Rivera is the author of Forever My Lady. For more information visit Amazon.com or www.JeffRivera.com
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